So you all know how I read approximately one book a year, and when I do I have to share it with all of you. I must verbally process everything, and yet I’m trying NOT to do that very thing because I tend to dominate conversations with my friends. Sooooo even more reason to type it out here; it’s practically the same as talking it out and you guys can choose whether or not you read this post instead of being forced to feign interest while I talk to your face.
[I’m also copying my clever and interesting friend Heidi who has a hashtag on Instagram #heidijoesbookreport. She reads a lot more than I do so you should totally check her out. But if you are ever so inclined to read all my “book reports,” there ya go, a new category on this here blog: erin’s book report.]
[ALSO, I would like to dedicate this post to Emmy who forced me to read the book and Jayme who dropped off her copy on my porch. A small delegation from a pretty amazing tribe of women.]
Ok! The best lines from Jen Hatmaker’s For the Love.
“I see a generation of people ON THE HOOK. Man, we are tough on one another, starting with ourselves. When Jesus said to ‘love your neighbor as yourself,’ I don’t think He meant judgmentally; but that is exactly how we treat our own souls, so it bleeds out to others. Folks who thrive in God’s grace give grace easily, but the self-critical person becomes others-critical. We ‘love’ people the way we ‘love’ ourselves, and if we are not good enough, then no one is.”
“We are called to this work, and it might not seem like much, but if you play your one note and I play mine and she plays hers, together it will create a beautiful song that sounds like freedom for the captives and good news to the poor. May the broken-hearted be healed and ashes turned to beauty in our generation.”
“As Scott Stratten, author of UnMarketing says: ‘Don’t try to win over the haters; you’re not the jackass whisperer.'”
“At your age, it takes courage to march to your own drumbeat. So few kids try. Popularity is a terrible goal, because you have to lose yourself to find it. If you sacrificed one precious part of yourselves, it would be a calamity. At no point, in no environment, among no friends must you be anything but exactly who you are. There is never a need to act less weird or more enthusiastic or extra eager or remotely mean to please someone else. When you want to say no, say no. When you want to say yes, say yes, even if no one else does. Dad and I have your back.”
“The best we can do is give them Jesus. Not rules, not behaviors, not entertainment, not shame. I have no confidence in myself but every confidence in Jesus. He is such a relief, isn’t He? He is always the true answer, the strongest touchstone, the best example. When I am grasping as a spiritual mentor to my kids, there He is. When words and ideas and ‘right answers’ fail me, His life and legacy deliver. With good reason my kids may doubt their parents, church, Christian culture, and their own understanding, but it is harder to doubt a Savior as good as Jesus. He is so incredibly dependable.”
“… So don’t let anything stop you, because a messy kitchen only tells me someone cares enough to feed me, which is a good key.”
“The early church involved small, organic communities who gathered around tables, lived simple lives on mission, and loved God and neighbor. That was kind of it. The first believers assembled for renewal and teaching and dinner and togetherness. It was so basic and lovely. Everyone pulled weight, pitched in, pressed into God. The early church wasn’t fancy or entertaining, impressive or complicated, but it managed to take the gospel to the whole world.”
“Loved people forgive and encourage, serve and uplift, because they are precious to someone. They live within a ridiculous ‘others first’ paradigm that only secure, beloved people can pull off.”
“Let’s treat each other well, making more space for every sort of ragamuffin… The breadth of God’s family is mercifully wide. Grace has no discernment, apparently. Jesus created a motley crew, plucking us from every context and inaugurating a piecemeal clan that has only ever functioned with mercy.”